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Davis, Justin, Trisha. NO ORDINARY HONESTY What prevents us from being fully known? The greatest adversary to being fully known is dishonesty. And fear is the driving force in most of our dishonesty. And fear is the driving force in most of our dishonesty eater than our desire for intimacy and leave our marriages ordinary. Those who compromise honesty generally do so because of three fears: fear of being exposed, fear of emotional pain, and fear of not being loved. When any of these fears is larger than our desire for intimacy, ordinary becomes the norm in our marriages. Many of us have something in our lives that we hope.

to have an incredible marriage, life, and faith

But many of us spend our lives slightly disappointed in the love story we're trying to live. Beyond Ordinary is what you've been looking for if you want to ignite your relationship to become what God intended you to have. Lysa TerKeurst, New York Times bestselling author and president of Proverbs 31 Ministries. to have an incredible marriage, life, and faith. Reading this book just might save you a few scars, but be prepared: it will also call you out of complacency and into something extraordinary. Jeff Goins, author, Wrecked: When a Broken World Slams into Your Comfortable Life.

Beyond Ordinary: When a Good Marriage Just Isn't Good Enough. Justin and Trisha Davis know just how dangerous ordinary can be. In this beautifully written book, Justin and Trisha take us inside the slow fade that occurred in their own marriage-each telling the story from their own perspective. Together, they reveal the mistakes they made, the work they avoided, the thoughts and feelings that led to an affair and near divorce, and finally, the heart-change that had to occur in both of them before they could experience the hope, healing, and restoration of a truly extraordinary marriage.

How safe is your marriage? The answer may surprise you. The biggest threat to any marriage isn’t infidelity or miscommunication. The greatest enemy is ordinary.

Read unlimited books and audiobooks on the web, iPad, iPhone and Android. How safe is your marriage? The answer may surprise you. Ordinary marriages lose hope. Ordinary marriages lack vision. Ordinary marriages give in to compromise. Ordinary is the belief that this is as good as it will ever get. And when we begin to settle for ordinary, it’s easy to move from I do to I’m done.

Beyond Ordinary is the story of Justin and Trisha Davis' nearly failed .

Beyond Ordinary is the story of Justin and Trisha Davis' nearly failed marriage and what God did to rescue i. This is the theme of Beyond Ordinary: When a Good Marriage Just Isn’t Good Enough. So many couples settle for less than ordinary. Extra-ordinary has to come on a heart level. God has to transform our hearts as individuals and as a couple. In a way, this book is the story of God taking an ordinary (or less than ordinary) marriage and transforming it. It is their journey of coming to a deeper understanding of the oneness, intimacy, and trust God wants couples to have in marriage. Incremental vs. Transformational Change.

Ordinary marriages give in to compromise. And when we begin to settle for ordinary, it's easy to move from "I do" to "I'm done.

How safe is your marriage? The answer may surprise you. The biggest threat to any marriage isn’t infidelity or miscommunication. The greatest enemy is ordinary. Ordinary marriages lose hope. Ordinary marriages lack vision. Ordinary marriages give in to compromise. Ordinary is the belief that this is as good as it will ever get. And when we begin to settle for ordinary, it’s easy to move from “I do” to “I’m done.”

Justin and Trisha Davis know just how dangerous ordinary can be. In this beautifully written book, Justin and Trisha take us inside the slow fade that occurred in their own marriage—each telling the story from their own perspective. Together, they reveal the mistakes they made, the work they avoided, the thoughts and feelings that led to an affair and near divorce, and finally, the heart-change that had to occur in both of them before they could experience the hope, healing, and restoration of a truly extraordinary marriage.

Comments: (7)

Ranicengi
I am always looking for a Christian book that is not a Christianized version of a psychological self-help book. I admit it is a fine distinction. Psychological self-help books deliver some insight and practical ways to change your attitude and interaction, your behavior and style - so that you get along better, get more done, and with less stress. I am studying counseling and how to do all that. I believe in the value of psychology all day long, and I hope to make a living with it. When a Christian does that and backs it up with scripture, it becomes a Christian book - but often it holds no more spiritual insight than a secular book. I like those Christian books because the scripture makes me feel better, and it helps to elucidate the wisdom of God. The things you find in scripture really do make a difference. Scripture is wisdom. But plain old psychology with scriptural window dressing is just that, and no more.

I am looking for spiritual insight that is not derived from psychological study and practice. I know the psychology. In my view most psychological techniques produce only superficial change, and that with great discipline and effort. The Word of God changes us deeply, when we let it sink deeply into our souls - our psyches. (Look it up in your Greek lexicon - "psyche".) This book, and a handful of others (by Brennan Manning, Henri Nouwen,Steve Brown, and a few others) helps us discover principles derived from scripture that can be lived out - and that will change us.

The greatest problem I ever had was me, and it still is. Books like this help to uncover the selfishness and fear that keep me like I am. This has to happen first. Spiritual ideas to work only when I am ready to change.

By the way, we are studying this book in our men's group. A pastor had this on his shelf, a gift from somewhere. He had not read it, but suggested it for study. Out of nowhere this book has made us all sit up and take notice. A rare thing - practical help with relationships that blends psychological insight with spiritual principles - and at a deeper level than just the psychology. Scripture here is seldom quoted, but is more deeply embedded than the most orthodox Biblical counseling sources. Amazing work.
Dilkree
I went back and forth about how many stars to give this book. There were so many places that I just cringed. Seriously, I have trust issues with Justin Davis and I'm not the one he pulled all of that junk on. It's hard for me to really believe and take to heart advice from someone so dishonest. I know that is the point, kind of, but still... It just didn't seem genuine to me. Perhaps those are my own issues. I did, however, find myself thanking God for my marriage!

After a day, I kept thinking of how this review should have been more complete, so I am adding to it.

One of the reasons that I disliked the book was a hurdle to overcome from the beginning. I sincerely dislike when anyone is flippant with the name of God. I know that Justin said he wasn't proud of calling himself "god", but it was still an issue for me to not hold it against him throughout the book. I realize that isn't okay to be turned off to the story for an initial lack of humility by the author at a very young age, but it is the truth, anyway.

In addition, I got a sense that he was still disingenuous by his the way he recounted certain stories. For example- When his child fell into the stove, he never mentioned that looking back on it, he realizes that he did a disservice to his child by turning it into an excuse to be in an argument with the child's mother. Instead, it is still void of any sympathy for the poor kid. In the same way, each chapter still heaps a significant amount of blame on Trisha for the fact that Justin inevitability strayed.

I am not in the situation. Perhaps enough time has passed that they truly have healed and this "shared blame" for one's misdeed really is not damaging. However, in my experience, it has never been helpful to share blame when you have completely screwed up. It has been most helpful to admit that no amount of failed expectations should have caused me to make the mistake. It's a hard lesson, but I have finally learned that you cannot control how others treat you, but you are still responsible for your reaction. Placing even a tiny amount of blame on others, whether directly or subtly (as it is done in this book), does nothing for healing.

I also have trouble with believing that they were, in fact, healed when they returned to ministry so quickly. The Bible commands us to have our home in order before becoming a teacher. Personally, that would not be enough time for our home to be in order after such devastation. Again, I am not in their shoes and perhaps everyone has healed enough for this to be not only possible but beneficial. However, there was a trend in the book where I was shaking my head and thinking that he still Isn't being completely transparent.

I am glad that I didn't buy the book because I would have felt "had" if I would've. I am sure there are families this might help, and for that alone, I gave it three stars.
Beyond Ordinary: When a Good Marriage Just Isn't Good Enough download epub
Relationships
Author: Justin Davis
ISBN: 1414372272
Category: Self-Help
Subcategory: Relationships
Language: English
Publisher: Tyndale House Publishers, Inc. (January 1, 2013)
Pages: 256 pages